He’s a whistleblower
What a Bitch
The safety officer has arrived, I see.
What a Nerd.
A real Drama Queen
Rejection names. Names given to a person finally able to speak the truth of a thing, unable to pretend anymore. The name given to the one who says: Enough!
Here is what the word means according to www.dictonry.com and Merriam-Webster.
1. to attack or treat with ridicule, contempt, or derision.
2. to ridicule by mimicry of action or speech; mimic derisively.
3. to mimic, imitate, or counterfeit.
4. to challenge; defy: His actions mock convention.
5. to deceive, delude, or disappoint.
verb (used without object)
6. to use ridicule or derision; scoff; jeer (often followed by at).
7. a contemptuous or derisive imitative action or speech; mockery or derision.
It’s obvious that mocking is an attack using ridicule towards someone. Most, however, do not realize that built into the definition of the word mock is “to deceive”. That is exactly what happens when we mock. The reason a person mocks is to fake out the one they mock. The lie takes the attention off what should be heard or acknowledged or noticed. Minimizing what one has done or said that is worth respectfully acknowledging. It is a behavior for the avoidance of truthful discussion. To harm another when I don’t like what you’re doing, or what you’re saying. Rather than allow you to be who are are, and notice what you’ve noticed, or listen as you speak of what bothers you, in my discomfort I tell a lie by not honestly stating “I’m uncomfortable. I’m afraid. I’m ashamed when you talk about this, or do that.” So rather than tell the truth, we make the choice to lie-mock.
Mocking does what it’s intended to do. It shuts the mocked one down from doing. From being. From noticing what needs noticing. From saying what should be said. If only the mocked one would remember that to be mocked is to be lied to. The shame words might have less power. We might take courage and do what needs done, despite disgust and disdain, because we know that the mock-lies are weak strands that hold back only those who will be chained by cover-ups.
I’d love to learn how to help children deal with mocking. I happens too often schools. Even if the one mocked knows that the one speaking is lying, I’m not sure what to tell them as to how to act next.
Start by reminding them that shamers, mockers are always the same people. Help them notice that a large collection of kids rarely or never do those behaviors. From that they learn to realize that it’s about the other person. They can develop empathy and good boundaries because they understand it’s about the other person. Some people are short. Some people are tall. Some are fast. Some are slow. Some use their words to try to harm. Some do not. Just some thoughts.
What we really need to do is guard ourselves. Mocking tells us more about the speaker than the one they speak of. It takes intentionality to see people for who they really are, instead of the labels or descriptions they are called by others. And we need to train our children to do the same.
Right. Agreed. And part of guarding ourselves is to identify that those words just said were mocking, and therefore lies, which means I need to guard myself from that sad lying person. The mocking words are road signs along the way to help us know it’s time to be on guard.